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To Everything There is a Season…

You may be familiar with these words from the beautiful poetry of the third chapter of the Book of Ecclesiastes in the Bible.  Or perhaps you are more familiar with the musical setting by Pete Seegar known as Turn, Turn, Turn or popular renditions by Judy Collins or The Byrds.

These are words people turn to for comfort in times of change.  This is a Scripture that is often read at funerals.  So why do we find these words so comforting and reassuring?  I believe it is because they speak to us of Divine Order.  They remind us that life does have “seasons” that come and go, but the world keeps turning and life goes on.  To everything there is a season…

 

Breaking Open

Copyright 2017 by R.A. Robbins

“How strange that the nature of life is change, yet the nature of human beings is to resist change. And how ironic that the difficult times we fear might ruin us are the very ones that can break us open and help us blossom into who we were meant to be.”
― Elizabeth LesserBroken Open: How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow

Transition as a Process

Copyright 2016 by R. A. Robbins

“Most people do not resist change. What we resist is transition. Change is a situational shift. Transition, on the other hand, is the process of letting go of the way things used to be and then taking hold of the way they subsequently become. In between the letting go and the taking hold again, there is a chaotic but potentially creative “neutral zone” when things aren’t the old way, but aren’t really a new way yet either.” —  William Bridges

Out of my own life experiences I have often said, change is easy, learning to live changed is hard. Today’s quote beautifully describes that time between making a change or a “situational shift” and when we finally figure out what to do with it.

Think about some of the major changes in your life and the periods of transition that followed:  

  • From single to married.
  • From married back to single.
  • From being healthy to living with a life altering illness.
  • A lengthy period of illness followed by regained health.
  • The death of a parent.
  • The death of a child.  
  • From student to professional.
  • Loss of a job.
  • Retirement
  • Weight loss or gain.

How could life be different if we started being gentle with ourselves when faced with life changes?  What if instead of trying to rush through the turmoil and even grief that accompanies these sometimes life altering changes we allowed ourselves to begin the process of letting go of the way things used to be and then taking hold of the way they subsequently become.

Even major life changes that are happy ones require us to go through this transition period.  As much as we might love our significant other, learning to live with another person has it’s difficult moments.  Finally landing that job you spent years in school preparing for does not mean you don’t have to learn how to actually do that job in a real life situation. — You got the job, the school you went to taught you the theory of how to do it, but how does this employer want it done?

Life changes are part of life itself. To fight such changes is to  ignore who you truly are: A living, breathing soul on a planet of other living souls all creative and desiring to express that creativity as best we can. However living on a planet with billions of creative beings who all have the ability to make planetary life changes for all us we must learn to be flexible in our own ability to accept change is essential.

The more people there are on this planet of creative people, the more rapid the changes in our lives become. This can create an experience which Alvin Toffler calls Future Shock in his 1984 book where he says the difficulty of changes in our life situation is its rapidity. In the first paragraph of this book he says:

“The acceleration of change in our time is, itself, an elemental force. This accelerative thrust has personal and psychological, as well as sociological, consequences.”

We all are subject to experiencing this “future shock” syndrome. I know I have  experienced it often through my life. In fact this blog would not have ever existed had I not worked through the shock of the future telling me (in the form of my husband) that I would be left behind and stuck in the past if I did not get over my aversion to typing.  Anyone have else have a very strict high school typing teacher who (unintentionally) managed to turn learning to type into a nightmare? Without typing, you can’t use the current internet system. Without the internet, I would have been stuck in the sea of the past.

So we must be willing and skilled in accepting change. It can be fun, adventurous, challenging and very beneficial. It is not necessarily losing the “good old days” simplicity of the past but rather an excitingly new adventure into a new future with new possibilities.

What are the challenges you are facing brought to you by the passage of time? Perhaps we can help one another with ways to learn how to cope with “future shock” and daily life changes.

Transitions

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The Espirational.com theme for October is “Transitions.”

The world around us is in a constant state of change, often forcing us to change too.  Scattered among the changes are the major life transitions we all face throughout life, from birth to death with some good ones like moving from childhood to adolescence and adolescence to adulthood, marriage (and sometimes divorce), aging, career changes and spiritual awakening scattered in between.

So how do we navigate this maze of transitions throughout our life?  This is what we will explore during October here at Espirational.com

 

 

Art, Freedom and Creativity

Firewalker
Copyright 2015 by R.A. Robbin

“Art, freedom and creativity will change society faster than politics. ” Victor Pinchuk

The photo for today is of an original artwork called Fire Walker which is available along with more of my art in the Espirational Gallery.

A Closer Look at Ice

Copyright 2018 by R.A. Robbins

Something different happened earlier this month.  The lake froze.  Not that common around here, but it does happen.

I’ve never thought that much about ice.  I try to avoid it as much as possible.  We lived across the road from a lake before we moved here.  It would freeze and people would cut holes in the ice for ice fishing.  Other than falling on ice and putting cubes in my iced tea, that was about all I knew about ice.

But around here there is time.  Time to walk and time to really look at things.

One morning while walking along the lake I looked down and noticed the water had frozen in waves as it reached the shore.  Cool!  Then I noticed that the ice was not all the same.  Different patches where I was walking had frozen differently, creating different textures and patterns.

 

Copyright 2018 by R.A. Robbins

Later in the day I went back to the lake with my camera and took some pictures, focusing on capturing texture.  The only thing I worried about in composition was how I included the ice.

Copyright 2018 by R.A. Robbins

At one point I went out on the dock, held my arm straight out over the water with the camera facing down and took a shot.  The result was a stepping stone type of pattern in the ice.

Copyright 2018 by R.A. Robbins                                                                                                                                  I’m not sure what I will do with the pictures but they may contribute in some way to my art.  I do know that the act of taking them has forever changed the way I look at ice.

Take a minute to really look at something you may take for granted.  What you see might surprise you, it might even change you.

Living Changed Pt. 2 and Free Book Day

Yesterday I talked about how making changes can be easier than living with them.  Today I want to talk to those who may be feeling forced to make changes for health reasons that you really don’t want to make.   Maybe your doctor says you have to lose weight.  Or that special diet to treat or prevent a medical condition is just too drastic for you to want to consider.  Well I have experienced this one

Confession of a Drama Queen

Before I began the gluten free lifestyle I was convinced there would be nothing left to eat but twigs and tree bark.  In fact there is a rumor going around that I was spotted in the front yard threatening to eat a tree.  But the last 10 years of living gluten free have taught me that attitude really is everything  and can turn what at first  seems a huge negative into something that is actually positive.

Looking for the Good

It took awhile for me to see that not eating certain foods helps me live a happy and healthy life.  It is a good thing.  While learning the gluten-free lifestyle and making it my way of life took time there is no way I would cheat now.  No bread, cookie or cake is good enough to make it worth the price of poor health.

Staying on the Path

Looking at my way of life as the way to healing and wholeness keeps me on the path.  Focusing on and being grateful for the good in life, even if it means looking really hard to find one good thing, will make it easier to see the good that still exists in our lives and in the world.  We may even be able to see what we saw as “bad” as stepping-stones or lessons.

Now for the free book  — FINALLY!     The Gluten Free Good Life focuses on keeping a positive attitude and gives tips for making adjusting to gluten free living easier.  And today January 21st only, it is FREE!  Yes, I said free.  So go to the Amazon Kindle Store and get your copy.

If you have read the book, please consider leaving an honest review on Amazon.  Remember to mention you received the book free if you took advantage of a giveaway.   While you are there, click on my name and please take a look at my other books which are at regular price.

Want to see me in my kitchen making my naturally gluten free Sweet and Sour Chicken?  Go to https://www.facebook.com/espirational/ at 11:30 am (Central Time) for a Facebook Live cooking demo.  Don’t worry if you missed the live broadcast it will be available for viewing later.

 

Changing is Easy Living Changed is Hard

This is the time every year when people are making changes.  Some formalize this in the form of “resolutions.”  We all know many of these resolutions fail.  Most of us have experienced this personally.  One of the reasons I believe New Year’s resolutions fail is because we can make changes, but we are not prepared to live changed.

Living Changed

We all know that making changes in our lives can be difficult.  But living as changed beings can be even more difficult.  It often takes time to settle in and accept the changes as well as learning any new skills that may be needed to live with them.

If that isn’t enough, there is no set time for the changes to click in and become who we are.  It takes as long as it takes.  Some may not make it through this adjustment period and slip back into old patterns, but to those who persevere a new way of life is waiting.

Change Doesn’t Always Feel Good at First

There have been times in my life that changes for the better have not “felt good” at first.  I have been experiencing this during the past year.  As I have been approaching my third year of living and practicing yoga I have  been experiencing a few changes.

The constant adrenaline rush I used to live in is gone and I now live in peace and quiet.  That was extremely uncomfortable at first.  I was afraid without all that physical energy I wouldn’t get anything done.  It took awhile to realize that life is about who we are and how we live, not so much about how much we do.

My body has also been doing a little remodeling and I have been losing weight.  This is something I am not really comfortable with.  There have been times when I did not know when to stop with weight loss.

I have to remind myself that this loss is not the result of dieting and extreme exercise, it is coming from a healthy way of life.  There have also been many affirmations said and may lessons learned about dealing with well-meaning people during this time.

No Turning Back

Bob says I am a very determined person (some might call me stubborn) and I have a rule of “no turning back.”  I know there is nothing back there in the old life that I really want and there is nowhere to go but forward.  That doesn’t mean it is easy, it’s just the path set before me.

Hang in There

So if you are having trouble learning to live with positive changes in your life I encourage you to hang in there.  Keep looking forward and don’t turn back.  This is all a part of the process and you will get through it.

Please feel free to tell us about your experience with living changed in the comment section.