I know there are people who don’t like talking about the weather. They consider it shallow, trivial, a waste of time. But I will talk about the weather any day.
Why? Because two (or more) people are actually talking about something. And that’s where true communication starts: by talking about something. Starting out with the deep stuff can be threatening, so we start our talking about the weather, or something else seemingly simple. I sometimes get to know new people by talking to their dog first. If you pass the sniff test that opens a lot of doors with humans.
Once you begin talking, you might start talking about more than the weather. Before you know it relationships might begin to develop.
So next time someone greets you with a comment about the weather don’t ignore them, groan or give a slight wave. Start talking. There’s no telling where that cloudy conversation might take you.
“Don’t knock the weather: nine-tenths of the people couldn’t start a conversation if it didn’t change once in a while.”
– Kin Hubbard
I love this quote! I know there are people who think talking about the weather is trivial, trite and superficial. But I see talking about the weather as a door opener. It gets people talking about something. Talking about the weather might lead to “how are you doing?” After awhile of “fine” you might get an answer that goes a little deeper like “I’ve been sick.” Or maybe something like, “I’m so happy right now, my kids are coming to visit.” Both lead to conversation that lets you get to know the person a little better. It may take years to get to a deeper level, but building relationships takes time.
So go out there and start talking about the weather. You might be surprised where it leads you.
Yesterday was just one of those days that was just too beautiful to stay inside. We ate lunch on the porch, then reluctantly went back inside to get back to work. On my walk up the hill to get the mail I took a little detour by the lake stopping at the children’s playground to sit on one of the swings. Then I gave a little push off and before I knew it I was “pumping” my legs, going higher and higher. I imagined I was a bird, flying through the air.
Finally, reluctantly, I came back to earth and began the trek up the hill. After I got the mail I kept going around the loop at the top of the hill and passed the mailboxes again. It was just too nice to be inside so I kept walking. Then I saw one of my neighbors sitting on a bench and joined her for conversation beginning with it was just too nice to be inside. People drove by and talked to us, asking her if she was going to Bingo. No, it was just too nice to be inside. Finally a workman came to talk to her about a project she wanted done, so I headed back down the hill.
Bob was out on the porch with an empty popcorn bowl. I went in a popped myself some corn and joined him. After all it was just too nice to be inside. We did eventually go back in and get back to work, but were outside again for supper. It started to turn off cold so I went inside and eventually Bob joined me when it was getting ready to rain. I sat in my studio watching it rain, remembering what a nice day it had been.
Now I know you’re thinking, but you’re retired, it must be nice to be able to do that. We do still work, but we don’t punch a time clock anymore so we do have the flexibility in our schedules to just enjoy the weather from time to time. But no matter what your work or financial situation is, I hope you are able to take a moment to take a good deep breath of fresh air. Notice the flowers blooming. Listen to the birds singing and children playing. Maybe get outside and play a little yourself. Don’t let yourself get so busy planning and working for the future that you miss the wonderful, simple, here and now moments that bring such joy to our lives.
“Don’t knock the weather: nine-tenths of the people couldn’t start a conversation if it didn’t change once in a while.” — Kin Hubbard
I don’t usually comment on quotes, but today I couldn’t resist. When I first read it I laughed. It is funny. It is also true.
But as far as I am concerned there is absolutely nothing wrong in talking about the weather. It establishes a connection. No matter how brief or trivial it may seem, it opens doors.
Have you even been walking by a someone and said, “lovely weather isn’t it?” Did they smile? Did they respond? Did a conversation begin? You may never know what the brief exchange meant to the other person.
We live in a time when we desperately need to talk to each other. The weather is just as good a place to start as any.