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Living Through Uncertainty

The COVID pandemic has certainly shown us how quickly our world can be turned upside down, hasn’t it?  Things change from week to week, day to day and sometimes hour to hour.  I watched as churches announced online on Friday that they would still be holding services only to find themselves scrambling on Saturday to keep the flock together and informed as they were closing their facilities to help prevent the spread of the virus.

The uncertainty has brought out the best and the worst of us all.  We have seen everything from people hoarding toilet paper and fighting over hand sanitizer to people looking for ways to reach out to elderly friends and family.  We have seen churches activating phone trees to keep in contact with members and pastors taking their ministries totally online, speaking to a camera instead of a congregation.  We have also seen reactions from the extreme of fear-mongering to saying there is no danger and encouraging people to behave irresponsibly.

It is perfectly normal to be afraid in times like these.  I am not even going to pretend that I don’t have my moments of fear for myself.  I also have concern for others in my senior community, many with compromised immune systems.  But I know I cannot let that fear consume me.

Believe me, it is not easy; but this is a time I have to continue my spiritual practice and trust God.  As someone who always has to be doing and helping others, I also have to ask, “What is mine to do? ”  — right now, in this situation.

This time of uncertainty is also a time of great opportunity.  If we will use it, many of us will now have the chance to slow down, rest and connect with our higher selves.  We have time to strengthen the spiritual practices (prayer, meditation, affirmations, study) we may have been getting lax in, so we will come out of this even stronger and have better ways of coping when the next crisis comes.  We have the opportunity to get creative with new ways to keep in touch with others and maintain a strong sense of community and belonging.  This is the time to learn new things, new ways of living and being.

If we focus on only surviving this time of great uncertainty things will be just as chaotic when the next great earth-shaking event (or even just a small one) occurs.  With the world changing as rapidly as it is now, uncertainty is a given.  How will we cope?  Will we stay stuck to the things that used to work?  Or will we anchor ourselves firmly in faith and practice as we prepare for the next great adventure?

As in any situation, it is all up to you.  We cannot always control our circumstances, but we can control what we think and believe about them and how we react.  What will your choice be?

This month we will be talking about living through uncertainty.  Please feel free to talk about how you are living in these uncertain times.

 

Choices

Choices.  Which one is the best?  Which one do I want?  Just choose one.  I want both — don’t make me choose one.  I don’t want either — don’t make me choose one.  Sound familiar? These are the kind of thoughts we have all had while trying to make choices.

While we all enjoy having the freedom to make our own choices actually choosing can be difficult.  There are times we really wish someone else would choose for us.  But that rarely works out, does it?

So why can it be so difficult to choose?

Fear of making a mistake/fear of the consequences.  What if I make the wrong choice?  What if my choice just makes things worse?  Do I really want to be responsible?  Am I ready to live with my choice?

Both choices appear equally good.  In this case, we may wish we could have both.  Sometimes we can have both, like a scoop of ice cream on a piece of our cake.  Other times we really do have to choose just one good thing.

Both choices appear equally bad.  There just wasn’t a good choice.  People of all political persuasions were saying that after the last U.S. Presidential election.  When there doesn’t appear to be a good choice we can always regret the choice we did make — even if the choice was not to chose.  If you choose not to choose you are giving other people the right to choose for you.

Peer pressure.  It can be difficult to make a different choice than it appears everyone else is making.  This happens when we live differently than those around us as well as being the lone vote for or against something in a group decision.  Making choices can be lonely.  But sooner or later we all have to choose — something.

Please join us this month as we look at some of the choices we make and how we make them.  Feel free to leave your comments below.  Give us some tips on things you use to make the decision making process easier so everyone reading these articles could use them. I would love to get a discussion going about this.

The Unlearning of Fear and Acceptance of Love

Image Copyright 2017 by R.A. Robbins

“Love is what we were born with. Fear is what we learned here. The spiritual journey is the relinquishment, or unlearning, of fear and the acceptance of love back into our hearts.”

Marianne Williamson

 

 


 

Let’s Talk About It

We are talking about Holy Ground this month in The Espirational Community on Facebook.  While due to the founders of this site’s personal backgrounds this is a Christ based Website this site and The Espirational Community  is a place for people of all faiths to gather, discuss and praise the God of us all. Please consider this your invitation to join our community and participate in the discussion of this timely topic.

Perfect Love Casts out Fear

Dark Cloud Sunset, Copyright 2018 by R.A. Robbins

I don’t quote a lot of Scripture here, but sometimes something from the Christian Bible speaks strongly to our monthly topic.

“16 And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. 17 This is how love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment: In this world we are like Jesus. 18 There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.

19 We love because he first loved us. 20 Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen. 21 And he has given us this command: Anyone who loves God must also love their brother and sister.” — The Bible 1 John 4:16-21 NIV

We are talking about Divine love this month in The Espirational Community on Facebook.  Please consider this your invitation to join our community and participate in the discussion of this timely topic.

On Sowing and Reaping

We have all heard, “you reap what you sow.”  But what does it mean, really?
 
You may have heard of the “Law of Attraction.”  These teachings are correct in that what you put out into the universe is what comes back to you.  It is Universal Law.    It works for everyone and does not depend on the intent of the user.  It works for those with altruistic motivations who only care about helping others and it also works for those with more self serving motives of accumulating power and monetary wealth.
 
Many times the Law of Attraction is associated with money.  And who wouldn’t like to attract more money to themselves?
 
But we are missing the point if we limit this Universal Law to just one aspect of life.  It can all be summed up in these simple words.  “You reap what you sow.”  Or “what you put out into the world comes back to you.”
 
We create our own reality using our thoughts, words and actions.  If we sow love with loving thoughts, words and actions we will reap love.  If we sow fear with fearful thoughts, words and actions we will reap fear.  If we sow lack with thoughts, words and actions of not having enough we will reap lack.  If we sow joy with joyful thoughts, words and actions we will reap joy.  If we sow sorrow with sorrowful thoughts, words and actions we will reap sorrow.  If we sow peace with peaceful thoughts words and actions we will reap peace.
 
Now our outward circumstances may not change, but when we change the way we look at them we change.  This is how we create our own reality.
 
Don’t over complicate this.  It really is that simple.  Now living it? That’s the hard part.  Emoji  It takes time, patience and practice.  But as you begin to see how you are attracting things you want as well as things you don’t want into your life you will want to keep trying to learn this skill.
 

 

 

It’s the Place In Between that we Fear

Flowers along the road
Copyright 2015 by R.A. Robbins

It is not so much that we’re afraid of change or so in love with the old ways, but it’s that place in between that we fear…It’s like being in between trapezes.  It’s Linus when his blanket is in the dryer.  There’s nothing to hold on to.” — Marilyn Ferguson

Making Room for Something New

Copyright 2016 by R.A. Robbins

Looking back over 2017 I see that I was enrolled in one long “class” on letting go.  Throughout the year situations would appear to teach a new lesson or re-teach an old one.  One thing I have learned this is year is that sometimes we are called to let go of something to make room for something new.

So what are some of the things I have been given the opportunity to let go?

Letting Go of Fear  Are you afraid?  Many people live in fear.  In fact it can be difficult not to when the world seems such a dark,. dangerous place.

Letting go of fear of war, loss of freedoms and loss of health insurance are of the few things I have been called to deal with this year.  What fears have you been working on letting go?  As I let go of fear it frees up energy to deal with the situation causing me to be afraid.

Letting Go of the Past  No one has trouble with this one, right?  This is something we all face sooner or later and it can be extremely difficult.  I do not intentionally revisit my past because it can to too tempting to pitch a tent and camp out there.

What I have found recently is that when it is time to let go  of something circumstances will occur to encourage that.  Most of these related to the next point, which is…

Letting Go of Weight  Anyone else dealing with this one?  There had been times in my past when I didn’t know when to stop with weight loss.  So when the pounds started dropping off they were met with a good amount of fear and trepidation.  Let’s just say there has been a lot of letting go required of me this year but I am slowly learning to love my new body.

Letting Go of Control  Are you a control freak?  I just raised my hand in case you didn’t see it.  As a “recovering control freak”  this is a learning opportunity I am faced with often.

Seeing myself in the behavior of others has been a big motivation for letting go of a few things in this area.  It can be difficult to admit there are some things we just can’t control, can’t it?

Letting Go of Expectations of Others   Are there relationships in your life that are so problematic you are sure the only solution is to let these people go and get them out of your life?  There are times this is necessary.  No one should live in fear of violence or emotional abuse.  But if this is not the case for you, perhaps what you need to let go of is not the people in your life, but your expectations of them.

Are you expecting people to meet needs in your life, only you can fulfill?  Are you expecting people to be someone other than they are? When I started letting go of expectations of people and relationships my relationships began improving.

Letting go of expectations of others can set the stage for creating new relationships and improving existing ones.  I can’t promise anything, but one of the those difficult people might end up being one of your best friends.  Happened to me.

Letting Go of possessions  Do you hold too tightly to things you own?  Do the things you own actually own you?  Do they take up time, money and attention that could go to your family?  Are you missing opportunities to serve others?

This lesson came to me this year in the form of clothing.  My clothing has always been mostly functional, but I did have a few nice things I made by hand or purchased on sale.  I was not happy when I lost enough weight to need new clothes.  I held on for dear life to those big baggy pants.

I’ve never been a big fan of shopping and just the thought of how much it would cost to replace an entire wardrobe scared me.  Finally a friend got tired of the whole thing and began giving me things from her closet.

One thing I was determined not to let go of was my coats.  But when I reached the sad realization that they could go around me twice and someone else could benefit from them I gave in and admitted to the universe that I needed a new coat.  I ended up with 15 coats and jackets given to me by friends.  Don’t you love that the Universe has a sense of humor?

By letting go of my old clothing (even reluctantly) I made room for not only fun and fashionable new clothes, but new and deeper friendships by allowing others to bless me and be blessed themselves by giving.  I also have the opportunity to pass my blessings on to others by giving my now too large clothes to someone who needs and will welcome them.

Letting go to move forward.  There comes a time when we all need to let go of something to be able to move forward and welcome something new.  We each have our own possessions, emotions, memories, expectations, fear, habits, beliefs and ideas that might be holding us back.

 What are you ready to let go of to make room for something new?

 

Thought for Today

Peach Irises Copyright 2015 by R.A. Robbins
Peach Irises
Copyright 2015 by R.A. Robbins

“I’ve learned that fear limits you and your vision. It serves as blinders to what may be just a few steps down the road for you. The journey is valuable, but believing in your talents, your abilities, and your self-worth can empower you to walk down an even brighter path. Transforming fear into freedom – how great is that?”— Soledad O’Brien

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