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The Unlearning of Fear and Acceptance of Love

Image Copyright 2017 by R.A. Robbins

“Love is what we were born with. Fear is what we learned here. The spiritual journey is the relinquishment, or unlearning, of fear and the acceptance of love back into our hearts.”

Marianne Williamson

 

 


 

Let’s Talk About It

We are talking about Holy Ground this month in The Espirational Community on Facebook.  While due to the founders of this site’s personal backgrounds this is a Christ based Website this site and The Espirational Community  is a place for people of all faiths to gather, discuss and praise the God of us all. Please consider this your invitation to join our community and participate in the discussion of this timely topic.

Perfect Love Casts out Fear

Dark Cloud Sunset, Copyright 2018 by R.A. Robbins

I don’t quote a lot of Scripture here, but sometimes something from the Christian Bible speaks strongly to our monthly topic.

“16 And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. 17 This is how love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment: In this world we are like Jesus. 18 There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.

19 We love because he first loved us. 20 Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen. 21 And he has given us this command: Anyone who loves God must also love their brother and sister.” — The Bible 1 John 4:16-21 NIV

We are talking about Divine love this month in The Espirational Community on Facebook.  Please consider this your invitation to join our community and participate in the discussion of this timely topic.

On Sowing and Reaping

We have all heard, “you reap what you sow.”  But what does it mean, really?
 
You may have heard of the “Law of Attraction.”  These teachings are correct in that what you put out into the universe is what comes back to you.  It is Universal Law.    It works for everyone and does not depend on the intent of the user.  It works for those with altruistic motivations who only care about helping others and it also works for those with more self serving motives of accumulating power and monetary wealth.
 
Many times the Law of Attraction is associated with money.  And who wouldn’t like to attract more money to themselves?
 
But we are missing the point if we limit this Universal Law to just one aspect of life.  It can all be summed up in these simple words.  “You reap what you sow.”  Or “what you put out into the world comes back to you.”
 
We create our own reality using our thoughts, words and actions.  If we sow love with loving thoughts, words and actions we will reap love.  If we sow fear with fearful thoughts, words and actions we will reap fear.  If we sow lack with thoughts, words and actions of not having enough we will reap lack.  If we sow joy with joyful thoughts, words and actions we will reap joy.  If we sow sorrow with sorrowful thoughts, words and actions we will reap sorrow.  If we sow peace with peaceful thoughts words and actions we will reap peace.
 
Now our outward circumstances may not change, but when we change the way we look at them we change.  This is how we create our own reality.
 
Don’t over complicate this.  It really is that simple.  Now living it? That’s the hard part.  Emoji  It takes time, patience and practice.  But as you begin to see how you are attracting things you want as well as things you don’t want into your life you will want to keep trying to learn this skill.
 

 

 

It’s the Place In Between that we Fear

Flowers along the road
Copyright 2015 by R.A. Robbins

It is not so much that we’re afraid of change or so in love with the old ways, but it’s that place in between that we fear…It’s like being in between trapezes.  It’s Linus when his blanket is in the dryer.  There’s nothing to hold on to.” — Marilyn Ferguson

Making Room for Something New

Copyright 2016 by R.A. Robbins

Looking back over 2017 I see that I was enrolled in one long “class” on letting go.  Throughout the year situations would appear to teach a new lesson or re-teach an old one.  One thing I have learned this is year is that sometimes we are called to let go of something to make room for something new.

So what are some of the things I have been given the opportunity to let go?

Letting Go of Fear  Are you afraid?  Many people live in fear.  In fact it can be difficult not to when the world seems such a dark,. dangerous place.

Letting go of fear of war, loss of freedoms and loss of health insurance are of the few things I have been called to deal with this year.  What fears have you been working on letting go?  As I let go of fear it frees up energy to deal with the situation causing me to be afraid.

Letting Go of the Past  No one has trouble with this one, right?  This is something we all face sooner or later and it can be extremely difficult.  I do not intentionally revisit my past because it can to too tempting to pitch a tent and camp out there.

What I have found recently is that when it is time to let go  of something circumstances will occur to encourage that.  Most of these related to the next point, which is…

Letting Go of Weight  Anyone else dealing with this one?  There had been times in my past when I didn’t know when to stop with weight loss.  So when the pounds started dropping off they were met with a good amount of fear and trepidation.  Let’s just say there has been a lot of letting go required of me this year but I am slowly learning to love my new body.

Letting Go of Control  Are you a control freak?  I just raised my hand in case you didn’t see it.  As a “recovering control freak”  this is a learning opportunity I am faced with often.

Seeing myself in the behavior of others has been a big motivation for letting go of a few things in this area.  It can be difficult to admit there are some things we just can’t control, can’t it?

Letting Go of Expectations of Others   Are there relationships in your life that are so problematic you are sure the only solution is to let these people go and get them out of your life?  There are times this is necessary.  No one should live in fear of violence or emotional abuse.  But if this is not the case for you, perhaps what you need to let go of is not the people in your life, but your expectations of them.

Are you expecting people to meet needs in your life, only you can fulfill?  Are you expecting people to be someone other than they are? When I started letting go of expectations of people and relationships my relationships began improving.

Letting go of expectations of others can set the stage for creating new relationships and improving existing ones.  I can’t promise anything, but one of the those difficult people might end up being one of your best friends.  Happened to me.

Letting Go of possessions  Do you hold too tightly to things you own?  Do the things you own actually own you?  Do they take up time, money and attention that could go to your family?  Are you missing opportunities to serve others?

This lesson came to me this year in the form of clothing.  My clothing has always been mostly functional, but I did have a few nice things I made by hand or purchased on sale.  I was not happy when I lost enough weight to need new clothes.  I held on for dear life to those big baggy pants.

I’ve never been a big fan of shopping and just the thought of how much it would cost to replace an entire wardrobe scared me.  Finally a friend got tired of the whole thing and began giving me things from her closet.

One thing I was determined not to let go of was my coats.  But when I reached the sad realization that they could go around me twice and someone else could benefit from them I gave in and admitted to the universe that I needed a new coat.  I ended up with 15 coats and jackets given to me by friends.  Don’t you love that the Universe has a sense of humor?

By letting go of my old clothing (even reluctantly) I made room for not only fun and fashionable new clothes, but new and deeper friendships by allowing others to bless me and be blessed themselves by giving.  I also have the opportunity to pass my blessings on to others by giving my now too large clothes to someone who needs and will welcome them.

Letting go to move forward.  There comes a time when we all need to let go of something to be able to move forward and welcome something new.  We each have our own possessions, emotions, memories, expectations, fear, habits, beliefs and ideas that might be holding us back.

 What are you ready to let go of to make room for something new?

 

Thought for Today

Peach Irises Copyright 2015 by R.A. Robbins
Peach Irises
Copyright 2015 by R.A. Robbins

“I’ve learned that fear limits you and your vision. It serves as blinders to what may be just a few steps down the road for you. The journey is valuable, but believing in your talents, your abilities, and your self-worth can empower you to walk down an even brighter path. Transforming fear into freedom – how great is that?”— Soledad O’Brien

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Tools for Defeating Fear: Gratitude

There are people who in their fervor to win high political office and (in their minds) control the world who are intentionally spreading fear.  It makes perfect sense.  People who are afraid are easier to control.

A part of this political tactic is to paint a picture of doom and gloom;  a world gone astray with no good left.  The only hope is to elect one particular leader.  Believe it or not, this political strategy (let’s call it what it is) seems to be working.

There are people who see that there is still good left in our world and in our country.  The slogan “Make America Great Again” is meant to reinforce a very negative view of our country and our world.  But there are those who believe that America is still great.

Could things be better?  Of course.  Do we need to learn to put aside our differences and come together to work for good?  Absolutely.  Do we need to find a way to stop the senseless violence?  You bet.  But words and actions that only serve to further divide our country are not what we need right now.

If “we the people” really want to “take back our country” it must be done through a “grass roots” movement, not by electing a demagogue who claims to have all the answers.  That means we start seeing the real truth about our country and not the negative picture being painted.

The United States has a long history of pulling together to come through dark times.  In fact the great strength of our country has been that in spite of our diversity we can come together in difficult circumstance.  Now more than ever we need to come together as individuals and communities, across race, gender and party lines to listen to each other and find solutions.

We also remember that our thoughts and our words are creative.  What we think and say comes into being.  We remind each other that positive words and actions have the power to overcome evil.  We think, speak, meditate and act on peace.

We are also grateful for what we have.  We recognize that no matter how dark and desperate times may seem there is still good in the world and for this we are so grateful.  During this month when Americans celebrate a National Day of Thanksgiving let us focus on gratitude for the good things in the world, our countries (we have readers from around the world) and our own lives.

Tools for Defeating Fear: Watch Yourself Online

The internet can be a wonderful tool, but it is just that… a tool.  As a tool it is neither good or evil in itself, but can be used for either.

With the advent of the Internet Age, we now have access to more information than ever before.  We also have access to that information quicker than ever before.  Now it is possible to watch news stories as they are still unfolding.  This often results in misinformation going out before all the details have yet to be learned.

It is now also possible for anyone to declare themselves a journalist, writer or online personality and start sharing news or opinions through blogs, podcasts and other online media.  With this we find the lines between trustworthy sources and not so trustworthy ones being blurred.

Add to the above the possibility of anonymity online paired with social pressure and things can get out of hand quickly.  If you read and believe everything that comes across your screen you find yourself at some time or other experiencing extreme anger or fear.

So how do we protect ourselves online?

  1. Remember when you access information via the internet from your home, you are inviting people, information and events into your home.  You are inviting strangers into your home, your head and your heart.  Guard your home as well as your head and your heart.  Don’t allow things in through the computer that you would not allow in through your front door.
  2. Carefully screen and select breaking news, headlines or other information coming to you.  Some days there is just so much going on that if you get alerts or headlines on your homepage you may get quite overwhelmed.  Choose the types of stories you really want to follow and the sources you trust.
  3. When tragedy strikes, which is becoming all too familiar, do not stay glued to the story for hours or days, soaking up every little detail.  As difficult as it may be, life does go on.  The news can stop you in your tracks if you let it.
  4. Choose your online “friends” and people you “follow”  carefully. We all know that many online friends are actually strangers right?  They may not even be who we think they are and many certainly do not have your best interest in mind.  As an artist and writer I have two different types of social media accounts.  First, I have the public ones for the creative work I do, such as my Facebook Page.  Then I also have my personal Facebook account which I limit mostly to family and neighbors.  I have a small number of followers and they get to see the real me.  I might share anything from my favorite recipes, to my current art projects, to catching up on family news, to updates on Bob’s health, to political views (yes, I do have them).  My other social media accounts are much less personal.
  5. Avoid jumping on “bandwagons” and getting caught up in emotional “mob scenes” online.  Don’t find yourself following an angry crowd into doing or saying something you would never do on your own.
  6. Bookmark or subscribe to your go-to websites and blogs for positive news, articles and encouragement.  There are more of us out there then your might think.  Of course we hope you will remember us when your soul needs a vacation.

Bob and I are quite active online.  We use the internet as a tool for communication as well as information and research.  Please keep in mind as you are online, the internet is only a tool.  Whether you use it for good or evil is up to you.