“Let go of certainty. The opposite isn’t uncertainty. It’s openness, curiosity and a willingness to embrace paradox, rather than choose up sides. The ultimate challenge is to accept ourselves exactly as we are, but never stop trying to learn and grow.” – Tony Schwartz
Do you feel trapped in a story of “pain”, “sickness”, “loneliness”, “abuse”, “failure”, “shame” or “isolation”? Or perhaps your story is of a “perfect world” which may not exist? Have you moved beyond all that but still find yourself telling the same old story over and over? Is it time to lay down that tired old story which no longer serves your highest good?
As individuals, communities and nations we are being called to re-examine our stories. Looking closer at our history, admitting mistakes and taking action to make things better is necessary during times like these. It’s time to start admitting we are not perfect. We need to summon the collective courage to dig up some of the skeletons so long buried we can almost believe they don’t exist, find common ground and begin to heal old wounds so we can move forward.
Yes, our stories have led us to who and where we are today. They have been stepping stones. They can even serve us as a warning of pitfalls we need to avoid. It’s when they become our sole identity that we get in trouble. It is time to release tired old stories that have been holding you back, both individually and collectively so we can live for our higher good?
Please join us in thoughtful consideration of this important topic.
“Some of us think holding on makes us strong, but sometimes it is letting go.” — Herman Hesse
“The happiness we seek cannot be found through grasping, trying to hold on to things. It cannot be found through getting serious and uptight about wanting things to go in the direction we think will bring happiness. We are always taking hold of the wrong end of the stick. The point is that the happiness we seek is already here and it will be found through relaxation and letting go rather than through struggle.” — Pema Chodron
“Life is a balance between holding on and letting go.”
“Letting go helps us to to live in a more peaceful state of mind and helps restore our balance. It allows others to be responsible for themselves and for us to take our hands off situations that do not belong to us. This frees us from unnecessary stress.”
— Melody Beattie
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“Most people do not resist change. What we resist is transition. Change is a situational shift. Transition, on the other hand, is the process of letting go of the way things used to be and then taking hold of the way they subsequently become. In between the letting go and the taking hold again, there is a chaotic but potentially creative “neutral zone” when things aren’t the old way, but aren’t really a new way yet either.” — William Bridges
Out of my own life experiences I have often said, change is easy, learning to live changed is hard. Today’s quote beautifully describes that time between making a change or a “situational shift” and when we finally figure out what to do with it.
Think about some of the major changes in your life and the periods of transition that followed:
- From single to married.
- From married back to single.
- From being healthy to living with a life altering illness.
- A lengthy period of illness followed by regained health.
- The death of a parent.
- The death of a child.
- From student to professional.
- Loss of a job.
- Weight loss or gain.
How could life be different if we started being gentle with ourselves when faced with life changes? What if instead of trying to rush through the turmoil and even grief that accompanies these sometimes life altering changes we allowed ourselves to begin the process of letting go of the way things used to be and then taking hold of the way they subsequently become.
Even major life changes that are happy ones require us to go through this transition period. As much as we might love our significant other, learning to live with another person has it’s difficult moments. Finally landing that job you spent years in school preparing for does not mean you don’t have to learn how to actually do that job in a real life situation. — You got the job, the school you went to taught you the theory of how to do it, but how does this employer want it done?
Life changes are part of life itself. To fight such changes is to ignore who you truly are: A living, breathing soul on a planet of other living souls all creative and desiring to express that creativity as best we can. However living on a planet with billions of creative beings who all have the ability to make planetary life changes for all us we must learn to be flexible in our own ability to accept change is essential.
The more people there are on this planet of creative people, the more rapid the changes in our lives become. This can create an experience which Alvin Toffler calls Future Shock in his 1984 book where he says the difficulty of changes in our life situation is its rapidity. In the first paragraph of this book he says:
“The acceleration of change in our time is, itself, an elemental force. This accelerative thrust has personal and psychological, as well as sociological, consequences.”
We all are subject to experiencing this “future shock” syndrome. I know I have experienced it often through my life. In fact this blog would not have ever existed had I not worked through the shock of the future telling me (in the form of my husband) that I would be left behind and stuck in the past if I did not get over my aversion to typing. Anyone have else have a very strict high school typing teacher who (unintentionally) managed to turn learning to type into a nightmare? Without typing, you can’t use the current internet system. Without the internet, I would have been stuck in the sea of the past.
So we must be willing and skilled in accepting change. It can be fun, adventurous, challenging and very beneficial. It is not necessarily losing the “good old days” simplicity of the past but rather an excitingly new adventure into a new future with new possibilities.
What are the challenges you are facing brought to you by the passage of time? Perhaps we can help one another with ways to learn how to cope with “future shock” and daily life changes.
“Letting go gives us freedom, and freedom is the only condition for happiness. If, in our heart, we still cling to anything – anger, anxiety, or possessions – we cannot be free.”
― Thich Nhat Hanh,