Has someone ever told you, I don’t discuss politics and religion? That doesn’t usually mean they won’t talk about those things with anyone — just not those who disagree with them. I understand not wanting arguments and hurt feelings, but people who do not agree with us are exactly the ones we need to talk to.
It is possible to have a calm, rational conversation between people who disagree. Not easy, but possible.
So how do we do this?
Suspend judgment and keep an open mind.
Listen more than you speak.
Give up any ideas about converting the other person.
Keep things calm and civil.
No insults or name-calling.
Avoid direct confrontation Don’t back anyone into a corner.
Shake hands, thank the other person for sharing their opinion. and part in peace.
These guidelines came as the result of a conversation with someone I do not agree with. Someone I saw as the enemy showed me it is possible to have those difficult conversations and part friends.
The only way to heal the great divide between groups and people is to communicate. Start talking!
Communication is one of the greatest tools we possess as individuals and societies. It can be used to bring us together, teach, heal and create. But it can also be one of our greatest problems tearing us apart. Many of the problems we see in the world today stem from communication — miscommunication, inappropriate communication or sometimes even a total lack of communication.
If we are going to heal the world, we have to start talking to each other. Not just talking at but also listening and communicating at deeper levels. The days of only talking about the important stuff with people we know agree with us needa to end.
I had already scheduled this month before the pandemic. But now communication has taken on a whole new meaning and importance hasn’t it? Stay with me for our regular Thought for Today as well of a few of my own thoughts about communication in the time of social distancing.
Please join me this month as we look at communication. Leave your comments below and let’s communicate!