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The Secret to Lasting Love

Our Wedding Photo

Okay, so that got your attention.  Everyone wants to find a love that will last, right?  Well the truth is there really is no secret, just the reality that you have to work at it.

Bob and I have been married for 26 years now.  Not really such a big deal when you consider our ages.  We both had other relationships, including marriages that did not turn out the way we would have wished.  But apparently today 26 years is a long time for a relationship to last.

Like any marriage ours has had its ups and downs, good times and bad, joys and sorrows.  It has definitely been a learning experience and at times an endurance test.  The words of the marriage vows are easy to say if you have never experienced the worse, sickness and poorer side.  When those things happen, and they will, you learn what those promises you made really mean.

There are a few things we do that I think contribute to the health of our relationship.

  1.  We say “I love you.”  At least once every day.
  2.  We thank each other.  Bob still thanks me for driving him into town and cooking dinner.
  3.  We are a team and we are at our best when we are working together.
  4.  We hold hands.  Aww that’s so cute — I know.  We get that all the time.  We have always held hands, but now with Bob’s vision problems, it is an even greater reminder to us of our dedication to each other as I help him navigate the world — literally.
  5. We enjoy each others company and we talk to each other — a lot.  What do we talk about?  Everything.  Serious stuff, funny stuff, deep intellectual stuff, mundane daily life stuff, spiritual stuff, current events — you name it we talk about it.
  6.  When hard times come and they do we always end up saying “we’ll get through this” and we always do.
  7.  And finally our faith and conviction that we were brought together for a reason helps keep us together.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

What are some of the ways you work at building a love that will last?