Our life on this earth is a school and everything we experience here is a lesson. But sometimes we forget that and see things that don’t turn out as planned or hoped for as “failures.” That is a loaded word for most of us. When we see something we tried as a “failure” we may begin to see ourselves as a “failure.”
Next time something you do doesn’t turn out the way you want, calm down and go within. Ask, “What is the lesson in this?” Be open and listen. Answers may not come right away but as you go on with daily life they will start to come, sometimes in unexpected ways. There may be more than one lesson.
Once you are aware of the lessons, what you do with them is up to you. You may choose to revisit the project or experience that didn’t work out the way you wanted and apply the lessons you have learned. You may choose to just start over with something new with the new knowledge and experienced you have gained. Perhaps what you learned from the experience was that you were trying to do something that was outside of your skills. Here again you have a choice — to learn new skills or try something else that is more in line with your skills, abilities and knowledge.
Finally you may decide that what you were trying just wasn’t what you thought it would be. You may have been miserable as you worked, determined to not “fail” at something your heart really wasn’t in. Letting this go will free you up to move on to something that makes your heart sing.
Letting go of something that was making me miserable is what led me to follow a calling I had felt for many years, but had felt prevented from acting on. And that was the beginning of Espirational. I might never have found my way here if it hadn’t been from two attempts at an online presence that didn’t turn out the way I had hoped and the lessons learned along the way..
Many of us have unrealistic expectations of ourselves and our lives. Fame and fortune are not required for a life well lived. Many expect to be perfect the first time they try something new. When we let go of these expectations we will find that we are free to live the life we were created for, learn lessons we need to learn and perhaps even enjoy the journey.